A Lesson in Submission vs Surrender

I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God. (1 Corinthians 11:3)
“Submission is a key element in the smooth functioning of any business, government, or family. God ordained submission in certain relationships to prevent chaos. It’s essential to understand that submission is not surrender, withdrawal, or apathy. It doesn’t mean inferiority, because God created all people in his image and because all have equal value. Submission is mutual commitment and cooperation.
“Thus God calls for submission among equals. He didn’t make the man superior; he made a way for the man and woman to work together. Jesus Christ, although equal with God the Father, submitted to him to carry out the plan for salvation. Likewise, although equal to man under God, the wife should submit to her husband for the sake of their marriage and family. Submission between equals is submission by choice, not by force. We serve God in these relationships by willingly submitting to others in our church, to our spouses, and to our government leaders.” (Commentary from the New Life Application Bible)  This paragraph was borrowed from Marriage Missions International


Does this not speak mountains? Christians alike have thought and have had the notion that God expects women especially to be subservient to their husbands. This is not the case at all. Submission can also be described as sitting down at a table and discussing, calmly, the decisions needed in a family or partnership. When agreements are hard to come by on a subject, it is listening to each other and working out a compromise that is beneficial to all. Don't ever let anyone make you subservient by force. This is not living, this is not what God wanted for you.